We often attract relationships in adulthood that are a reflection of our childhood wounds.
This is why tools, solutions, boundaries, disengaging, figuring out your role etc will only take you so far.
You may still feel on edge, anxious, triggered, overwhelmed, doubting yourself or not good enough from time to time, either as a stepmum or in your romantic relationship.
This is why if you want to feel calm in your own home, relaxed around your stepkids, at peace with how your partner parents, safe in a high conflict situation and confident in your role as a stepmum, you can't skip the inner healing of being a stepmum.
🌹 A relationship that grows stronger, more connected, more intimate, more trusting & more vulnerable over time where conflict brings you closer and you are always on the same page and team.
🌹 Unshakeable self-worth and self-love, feeling it is easy to set and uphold boundaries, knowing you are always a priority, your partner has your back, respects your view and there is no doubt of his love for you.
🌹 To be completely comfortable around your stepkids, in control of your emotions & triggers and feel respected and appreciated in your home.
🌹 To feel confident, accepting and happy with being the second, not having the firsts and able to deal with conflict with the ex in a calm and regulated way.
You will receive:
🌹 6 full length modules + a bonus Q&A. All recordings to keep.
🌹 15 x mini audio recordings answering questions from members of the live programme.
🧡You may get triggered when your stepchildren receive the love, gifts or attention that you never received as a child.
🧡The noise in the house overwhelms you. You shut down, your body tenses up, you want to run away. You know the kids are really just being kids but it all feels too much. Maybe you had a chaotic childhood, and the chaos doesn't feel safe for your nervous system. Or maybe you had a very quiet, restrained childhood, where children were not allowed to be heard.
🧡You may find it hard that your partner struggles with boundaries, rules and chores because you grew up with very strict parents.
🧡You may get highly triggered by a high conflict ex, because you grew up in a toxic, argumentative household.
🧡If you had to be self-sufficient or were forced to grow up too soon, you may put these expectations on your stepchildren, seeing them as immature or uncapable.
🧡You think your stepkids are always mad at you because you feel you could never do anything right as a kid - you end up over-giving, people pleasing and anxious around your stepkids, making them anxious around you, and even them feeling that love has to be earned.
🧡You may find it difficult to trust your partner, even when his actions are showing you that he does love you, and you can trust him.
🧡 If you experienced emotional neglect you may struggle with vulnerability, making it difficult to feel safe enough to open up and share your feelings about stepmotherhood or your struggles, without it turning into a huge row.
🧡If your parents weren't affectionate with you, you may struggle with low self-esteem, avoidance of affection yourself or needing constant reassurance you are loved.
🧡If you grew up in an angry household, anger and shouting may be your default method of communication, especially when you are overwhelmed and overstimulated.
🧡If one or both parents left you, you may have deep abandonment wounds and a feeling of 'they always leave me', meaning you settle for less than you deserve in a relationship.
🧡Your relationship attachment style will often mirror the relationship and bond you had with your parents. When you sign up for the Stepmum Soul Healing waitlist, you will receive a free 2 hour workshop on the stepping stones to healing your relationship attachment style for healthier stepfamily relationshps.
Each module will include workshop style + group healings on each of the below topics, exploring how your past, previous relationships and societal feminine wounding is impacting you as a stepmum, and importantly how to heal and release the past so you can become a radiant, magnetic, empowered, emotionally healthy woman, stepmum and human being.
Self worth, self-love, healthy communication, trust, boundaries in stepmotherhood:
If you have been affected by a father wound, it can show up as a stepmum by impacting your sense of self-worth and self-esteem making you get triggered when your partner shows his kids affection, spends time with their or buys them gifts as example. It can affect your romantic relationship, which is the foundation of a stepfamily and make you struggle to trust your partner, fear he is going to leave you or doesn't love you, and hold you back in regulating your emotions in conversations and your marriage/relationships.
Emotional regulation, positive self-talk and healthy balanced relationships:
Mother Wounds can also affect your sense to trust others, and make you feel like emotional safe and stable relationships aren't possible for you. They can also affect your ability to emotionally regulate and self-soothe, which is so important as a stepmum so that we don't reach for self-sabotaging behaviours and patterns, hurting ourselves and others in the process. You may find you have a lot of negative self-talk, people please or end up 'mothering' your partner, and putting others before you, if you haven't healed your mother wound.
Connection to yourself, knowing you are enough, self-belief, feminine power, stepping into purpose
Sisterhood wounds are SO important to heal, especially if you are in a high conflict dynamic. If you have sisterhood wounds, you may feel insecure, inadequate, judgemental, highly competitive or distrust other women and the ex, Often stepmum's feel very lonely and isolated in their role and loose friends when they become a stepmum, and realise they have lost a sense of connection and trust in other women. When we heal this, we feel a sense of safety and belonging in the world, and own our unique talents that we can offer others.
In this final module, I will answer all your final questions, plus we will have a closing ceremony to honour and cement all the powerful work you have done, and the new identity and version of you that you are stepping into as a stepmum, woman and human being.