Shortly after meeting a man with 4 children, by 2 different women, I realised just what I had let myself in for. Although I went into it with high hopes, naively not even contemplating that certain people might not like me, or there might be a mountain of challenges I would face, I soon realised just how difficult it was going to be.

As I was already in the self-development world and had been a trained meditation and yoga teacher since I was 27, I was not ashamed to say I needed help, and persuaded my then boyfriend, to visit a therapist with me.

Said therapist then proceeded to tell me that 'I knew what I was getting into', which as we all know is the worst thing you can say to a stepmum who is struggling.

Determined I was going to figure out how to make it work amongst the challenges that had been thrown at me or my partner (Alienation, court cases, infertility to name a few...), I worked with a host of different coaches who helped me figure out how to find peace, sanity and confidence in my role.

Deciding that coaching, over therapy, was definitely the best option for me, as it gave me solutions to my problems, rather than just being a space to vent, I took a stepfamily coaching certification with the Stepfamily Foundation in the US, with the vision to help other stepmum's through the challenges they face. Shortly after, I started working with stepmum's back in 2020, and have steadily grown this community and space since then.